If you look up the definition of the word “successful,” it has two different meanings. “Accomplishing an aim or purpose” and “Having achieved popularity, profit, or distinction.”
What comes to mind when you think of success? Both in general and personally? Do you find it to be all about the money? Or do you feel it’s about your happiness, health and well-being?
We all have a different meaning of success, and different goals we set for ourselves. Depending on who we are, our success can mean something totally different from that of our friend, family member, coworker, etc.
A couple of blog posts ago, I mentioned a documentary I watched called “Minimalism: A Documentary About The Important Things.” I was re-watching the documentary last night (yes, it’s that good!) and something I caught that I didn’t notice as much the first time around was when they mentioned SUCCESS and its meaning.
It opened my eyes to the fact that my idea of success could be completely different than everyone else’s. And that I am the person who sets my goals and considers something to be a success or not. My idea of success doesn’t have to be having a certain number in my bank account, or a certain amount in my paycheck – which most would think about when hearing the word success.
As humans we pressure ourselves, and nowadays with technology, we pressure ourselves even more because of what we see, thinking about how we think things are “supposed to be.” Saying things to ourselves like “I should have my dream job by now.” “I should have more money in the bank.” “I should be getting engaged and married soon because everyone else my age is.” “So many people I know are having babies, that probably means I should soon, too.”
Geez, it never seems to be enough for us, right? Or maybe for others? Either way, we don’t give ourselves enough of credit. The documentary touches on this subject as well – how we are constantly “on the hunt” – never seeming to be satisfying with what we have, always in search of “something more.”
We not only pressure ourselves, but it is also received from others as well, whether they realize it or not. And sometimes it’s hard to ignore their opinions, and we subconsciously listen to them at times.
Imagine how much further in life we could go if we only followed our own successes? Whether we wanted the perfect home for our future kids, or to be able to travel the world, or volunteer somewhere and help those in need, or to simply live a life that you just want to live – without being put under the pressure of thinking we need the same successes as others?