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Less is More?

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Do you ever feel like sometimes you would feel more fulfilled with less? I recently watched a documentary on Netflix called Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things and it opened my eyes to how a large percentage of our society feels the need to buy things, giving them a temporary sense of fulfillment, when in reality, they are trying to fill some sort of void in their lives.

We live in a day and age where people’s lives are constantly documented through social media, giving a certain perception to others. Most of these perceptions are not real – no one is going to document the struggles, because who wants to see those, right? So we post about anything from job promotions, engagements, weddings and babies to dinner dates with friends and good deeds we did that day (did you know you can do a good deed without posting on Facebook about it? Crazy, right?!)

While watching the documentary, one part struck me and has been stuck in my head ever since. A man who used to work on Wall Street had decided to try out Minimalism after he was offered a huge promotion. He already had his own office, and was probably making a pretty decent salary already, and the promotion offer opened his eyes. After he received the offer, he said he wept inside his office, realizing he was now even more trapped than before.

[Thought] – Can so much security make you feel stuck? Like you can never leave or that security will go away?

This Wall Street man had finally received what he had been waiting for all this time. Or so he thought. Not everyone is built for corporate, structured, 9-5 life. And that’s okay. But society has a way of making us feel like we’re doing something wrong if we don’t follow what everyone else is doing, in the exact same order they’re doing it. This part of the documentary was small, but it spoke to me so much. There is so much more throughout the film that will open your eyes.

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I’m beginning to think this is all just an illusion we create in our minds, because we think that’s how it’s supposed to be. Did you ever think you could maybe be happier with less? Less clothes, less designer handbags and shoes, less clutter, even less income. Money may make things a bit easier, but it won’t all of a sudden turn you into a happy person. We have hopes and dreams, and us humans love the chase.

But, what happens when we reach our goal? Have we instantly gained complete and utter happiness? Probably not. Our dreams sometimes come along with baggage. Baggage that leads to an overwhelming stress and a realization that maybe this is not really something we wanted the burden of carrying. But, because we’re told it is what we should aspire for, we chase, chase, chase… until we arrive at our destination only to come to become aware that it wasn’t for us in the first place.

After watching this documentary, it does not mean I’m all of a sudden going to sell all my things and get by with just a few items. But, it does make you realize that you can declutter other parts of your life that are far too overwhelming. Use it a a metaphor, declutter your mind and get rid of all that makes you unhappy. You do not need to follow what everyone else is doing and you do not need to purchase the most recent styles and trends to maintain or gain happiness. Letting go can be liberating. 

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You do not need to be engaged just because you and your partner have been dating for years, you do not need to have an extravagant wedding to please others and keep their mouth’s shut. You do not need to make a certain amount of money just so you can sit across from an acquaintance one day and brag about your job title. You do not need to have a piece of paper to show you can start a family and you do not need to take the opinion of others and turn it into your own.

There isn’t enough time for this, we grow older each second, and one day we will regret making our lives about everyone else. And as I type this, I’m telling myself along with you. I need to listen to these words as well, each and every day.

Check out the ‘Minimalism’ trailer below and watch the full documentary on Netflix.

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Freedom

ImageWhen people think of freedom, they automatically think of being alone or doing what you please whenever you please. This could be the definition to some people, but it’s very much possible to feel free due to other circumstances. This goes for finally letting go of things that are “weighing you down” – a job that is going nowhere, a relationship, a friendship, feelings of guilt or even your own thoughts. Anything that will lift weight off your shoulders gives you freedom. You can still be around others, doing what they would like to do and feel free. Feeling free is all about YOU, what you feel, the things you do, how you think and how you deal with things. I recently posted something about my trip to California in January and how it opened my eyes to so many things and helped me start doing the things I want to do rather than doing what others felt was the right thing. This you could say, gave me a sense of freedom. Another example is last week when I put in my two week notice at my other job that I’ve been at for 5 years, because it was a dead end and not necessary to keep for my future. I already feel free from its responsibilities even though my last day hasn’t arrived yet. Another feeling of freedom is being with the right person for you. A lot of people don’t feel free when they’re “tied down” not realizing that maybe it’s because they aren’t with the right person. You may like them, care for them and all that good stuff but if you have a feeling of “stuck” rather than happiness, then maybe it’s time to let yourself seek freedom. This was another thing my Cali trip helped me realize, and now I’m with someone who makes me feel free without even trying. If it scares you, just think of the feeling you’ll have once whatever it is, isn’t weighing you down anymore.

Something that Boggles my Mind

My boyfriend and I were discussing last night how celebrities receive free clothing and other items from companies just because they were seen with it in a magazine or maybe they were modeling the clothes for a photo shoot. What I don’t seem to understand is why celebrities, who can afford to buy pretty much whatever their hearts desire, are the ones getting free clothing when there are children out there that need it more. This goes for the non-necessity items as well, such as electronics and jewelry. Wouldn’t it be a better idea to give an x-box to a child at a children’s hospital instead of lets say, a pro-football player? I know there are organizations that do toy drives, coat drives and things like that but these children and families could always use more!

It doesn’t sit with me well that they get free meals either. I don’t care how expensive the lavish restaurant is – they can damn sure afford it. There are people all over this world that are malnourished and starving… send your free food in their direction. Not towards a celebrities mouth. Now, this is just another one of my problems with the world, along with some others but I’m sure there are people out there that understand where I’m coming from. I wish I could give every little child a warm coat, shoes and a gourmet meal along with a warm place to sleep. The sad thing is, the world has the money to do so, but the wrong people are spending it for us.

This world needs changing.

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Monday Motivation

Good morning Word Press.  I can’t believe it is Monday again!  The week goes by so fast when we look back on it but while we’re in it, it goes dreadfully slow.  I figured since it is the beginning of the week, we could all use some motivation to keep us going.  I thought about this while I was at Dunkin Donuts this morning getting my free iced coffee (Free Iced Coffee Mondays!)  The man behind the counter looked to be an owner or a manager of the place and he looked so miserable.  He was being polite to everyone but not once cracking a smile.  His eyes looked tired and you could tell he would rather be anywhere but at work. When I see people like this I always wonder what their life is like outside of work.  Are they happy?  Do they hate getting up and going to work everyday?  I feel bad for those who do because I know the feeling.  Before I started working for the website I felt like that a lot of the time.  Where you couldn’t care less about what your co-workers or the customers are saying to you.  It’s a shame because this was an older man and maybe he doesn’t have much of a choice on where he gets to work.  In my eyes though, it is never too late to make a change if it involves your happiness.  I can honestly say that on Monday mornings, I’m no longer a miserable person.  It amazes me too sometimes!  Too many people in this world are unhappy with their day-to-day lives.  I refuse to end up that way and you should feel the same too!  If you feel stuck in a rut with where you’re at in life… just remember that things can only change if you make the first step to change them!  Things will stay the same unless you do something about it.  With change, comes fear, but fear can be a good thing… especially when you overcome yours.  Monday is only a mother if your job is!

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