Tag Archives: changes

10 Signs You’re Getting Older

1. Food shopping becomes a regular chore. And it sucks pretty much every time.

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2. Jeans become more and more uncomfortable. Thank God for leggings.

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3. You begin to worry about health insurance and  other important finances.

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4. You realize you’re only a couple of years away from your 10 year high school reunion. Ouch.

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5. You look at teenagers in disgust and wonder if you were that annoying at that age too.

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6. Others around you are getting engaged and having babies. Some even on purpose.

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7. You don’t enjoy going out to bars and clubs anymore. The crowd drives you crazy and you rather be home watching movies.

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8. You realize that things can actually go wrong to your car (that cost money) and you must stop driving it like you’re in NASCAR.

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9. You get excited when there’s a sale.

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10. You stop sharing every little detail of your life on social networks because you realize how unnecessary it really is.

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10 Things I Would Tell My Younger Self

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I always think back to when I was younger and how I had specific expectations about my future, not having any clue as to what was ahead. If I could go back in time and prepare myself for anything, it would be the following:

1. Save more money. Every time I received money for holidays, birthdays, etc. I quickly spent it. Now, at the age of 24, I wish I had some more money to fall back on when needed.

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2. Make the most out of your college years. If I could do it all over, I probably would go away for college and actually try my very best to finish. I would have stayed on top of financial aid and anything else that went along with schooling. I went to a local school and sometimes I feel I would have had a better college experience if I went away. Your college years only come around once, make them count.

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3. Don’t bother trying to fit in. After high school, no ones gives a crap what “clique” you belonged to. Don’t stress over silly people who one day will probably be out of your life forever. The only person you should care about impressing is yourself.

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4. Things will change – be prepared. You don’t realize when it’s happening but things change constantly and you never realize until you’re looking back on things. Your friends will change, your relationships will change, your looks will change. The only constant in this life – change.

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5. Take advantage & be thankful for all the things you have access to. We don’t realize until we’re older all the things we received as children that are now not as easy to get as adults. This goes for a couple of different things… anything from food, hot water, health insurance, schooling, a roof over our heads. If you were fortunate enough as a child, your parents or guardians made sure you had all these things growing up. All the necessities. Now as an adult, you hope you don’t get injured because getting health insurance through your job is too expensive so you just don’t have any at all. Everything comes with a price.

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6. Keep a journal/diary. Write down all the big moments in your life so you can read it ten, twenty years from now. You’ll get a good laugh at how silly you were as a kid and it will remind you of some fun childhood memories. It’s nice to take a walk down memory lane and you will want to once you’re older.

Image7. Listen to your parents when they tell you to brush your teeth. This may sound funny but it’s so true, they’re telling you this for a reason and if you don’t listen you will most likely pay for it when you’re older. The dentist sucks – plain and simple. And it costs money.

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8. Be adventurous as much as possible. Go everywhere you can and cause some trouble. Paint the town red and enjoy every minute of it before adult responsibilities get in the way.

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9. Eat the cake… eat the candy… eat the ice cream. Eat it all. One day your metabolism will slow down and you will definitely not be able to eat like you used to. Feed your sweet tooth.

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And most importantly…

10. Stop rushing. I remember being young and wanted to be a “grown up” so badly. Ugh, now I ask myself “why?!” You have no responsibilities when you’re a child, nothing to worry about. Enjoy it, stop rushing to become an adult because when it happens you’re going to wish you could go back to a time when things were much simpler.Image

Saying Goodbye to 2013 & Welcoming 2014

Some food for thought as we transition into a new year filled with possibilities to create the life that we truly desire, and to be the best that we can be.

COMPLETING & REMEMBERING 2013

What was your biggest triumph in 2013?

What was the smartest decision you made in 2013?

What one word best sums up and describes your 2013 experience?

What was the greatest lesson you learned in 2013?

What was the most loving service you performed in 2013?

What is your biggest piece of unfinished business in 2013?

What are you most happy about completing in 2013?

Who were the three people that had the greatest impact on your life in 2013?

What was the biggest risk you took in 2013?

What was the biggest surprise in 2013?

What important relationship improved the most in 2013?

What compliment would you like to have received in 2013?

What compliment would you like to have given in 2013?

What else do you need to do or say to be complete with 2013?

CREATING 2014

What would you like to be your biggest triumph in 2014?

What advice would you like to give yourself in 2014?

What is the major effort you are planning to improve your financial results in 2014?

What would you be most happy about completing in 20114?

What major indulgence are you willing to experience in 2014?

What would you most like to change about yourself in 2014?

What are you looking forward to learning in 2014?

What do you think your biggest risk will be in 2014?

What about your work, are you most committed to changing and improving in 2014?

What is one as yet undeveloped talent you are willing to explore in 2014?

What brings you the most joy and how are you going to do or have more of that in 2014?

Who or what, other than yourself, are you most committed to loving and serving in 2014?

What one word would you like to have as your theme in 2014?

Bittersweet

After working at my job for 5 1/2 years, today is my last day! After today I will officially have my Saturdays back to myself to do whatever I please! I cannot wait! It is bittersweet leaving a place you have been this long, one you have been so comfortable at, but there is never growth if you stay in the same place! You have to move on from things in order to open new chapters of your life and move on to bigger and better things. Don’t ever be afraid to make certain moves in your life it it means it will help you continue to grow. I am so excited for the year ahead! 🙂

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Actors Bring Out Reactions to Racism in Harlem, NY [video attached]

This video takes place at a barber shop in Harlem, New York and has been set up with actors to see what peoples reaction to blatant racism is. This is a great watch! Shows you that there are people out there that will stand up for what  they believe in and will speak up to those who are not only wrong, but rude. People should be able to be with whoever makes them happy, in my eyes, those that think otherwise are close minded and probably have never tried dating out of their race. (I’m sure it has crossed their minds, but most won’t ever admit that) So in that case, don’t speak up on anything you haven’t experienced yourself!

Moving to a slightly different topic, but still similar – Marriage doesn’t seem as sacred as it used to be, people everywhere getting married for unnecessary reasons – ruining the whole meaning of marriage. What the world needs is people who actually love each other to get married, whether they’re in an interracial marriage or a same sex marriage.

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/83722045/

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Eyes Open Wider As You Get Older

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Sometimes I make myself nervous, aren’t I supposed to care more about things as I get older? Like having a career and money to buy a house and savings to start a life? Instead, I find myself caring less than I did in high school, a time when most don’t care at all. I’ve become mentally lazy with things and the only thing I can think of as a reason to why is because I’m just not fully satisfied. I need more. I work to make money to do things I want to do, but I don’t find myself doing any of it. I just keep waiting for the right moment, the right time to hop on a plane. The thing is, if I had enough people around me that felt the same way and wanted to get away as bad as I do, I’d be somewhere new every 2-3 months. I’d find the money to do it because it’s what would make me happy. Unfortunately, work and other responsibilities get in the way of the fun. I’ve grown so impatient with everyday life but mark my words I’m on my way to not letting that happen anymore. It may take some time, but if it’s what you really want then don’t let anything get in your way.

Changes are Coming [Also, Ways to Make it on A Little Less Income]

So, after over 5 years at the real estate office, I am putting in my 2 weeks today. My manager should be coming in sometime today and I’m a little nervous but so excited to finally move on from this place. They literally just signed off on a tiny raise for me (after 5 years) and I feel like it might be a slap in the face to them but that’s how I’ve felt for awhile so I guess it’s called karma? I have continuously thought about leaving here for well over a year and have not had the courage to do so for money reasons and comfort reasons. I slowly cut my hours as time went by, now I’m only working Saturdays because I work at the website during the week. I have been dying to have my Saturdays and weekends back to myself instead of giving my time to a place that has yes taught me responsibility, but has also taken a lot out of me. Many rude encounters and phone calls, many times biting my tongue to please people and customers. I’m happy that at the website I don’t have to answer phone calls, I write and keep to myself! Coming here on Saturdays to answer the phone to sometimes extremely rude people, really makes you start to lose it after awhile. I hope that after today, I no longer feel stuck here. I was staying because of money reasons but have realized that my happiness is more important. (And I won’t be missing out on THAT much money, honestly.)

I have written a couple of different blog posts regarding making the right decisions to make yourself happy, even if you’re afraid to do so. Like I said in those other posts, it’s fear of the unknown and fear of making such a big change. Change is good though and is a positive thing. And if you’re at a job that you’re starting not to enjoy as much anymore and it isn’t your career… then nothing is stopping you! Even if it is your career, it’s never too late to make a change. Think about it, your happiness is at stake here! Our time on this Earth is too short to let jobs consume you. I’ve come to a point in my life where I’m ready to move on and continue with the website where I’m content doing things that are useful for my career path. Too many of us feel stuck and never make a move to change things for the better, I don’t want to fall under that category. I’m done just talking about it, now today I’m going to be about it. As a young girl starting to work here, I had to learn about kissing ass and keeping your mouth shut regarding confrontation with agents or people over the phone. Don’t get me wrong, I have been rude right back plenty of times because you know what? If you’re rude to me, I’m being rude back. I let some things slide because I don’t need strangers ruining my day but some people go way too hard to be rude, and those are the ones I let loose on. THE CUSTOMER ISN’T ALWAYS RIGHT! I don’t care how many companies use this ridiculous saying because honestly, those who are high up and telling you this – are probably annoyed they have to be nice to rude people as well! It’s all about the business baby. But, after awhile, kissing ass gets tiring. And I’m tired.

So the point of this post is – MAKE MOVES! MAKE CHANGES! A month from now you will be glad you did it and it will make it easier for you to get what you want in the future.

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Ways to make it on a little less income:

1. Spend less! Start bringing lunch with you to work instead of buying each day. I have been doing this, sometimes buying once a week to treat myself. It really pays off in the end.

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2. Be smart when it comes to going out and spending. If you want to get together with friends, pick a night when there’s good deals going on. I did this the other night and only spent $15 (with tip!) for 3 Blue Moons and quesadillas! The friend I was with only spent $8! It’s possible to eat and drink cheap if you find the right place with the right deals.

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3. Coupons. I am just starting to do this because I’ve realized that it can help a lot. This isn’t only for married people either! Young people in their 20’s should most definitely do this because a lot of us have financial struggles trying to get to where we’re going. Start buying what is on sale and what you have a coupon for. Even if it’s only a couple cents, it stills helps.

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4. Groupon or similar websites. I’ve had a Groupon account for a long time now and really haven’t used it much. Now that I plan on only working one job, I have been searching on here a lot. It gives you great deals for a variety of different things, even weekend getaways!

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5. Cut down on the non-necessity things. For example, getting your hair done or your nails done. Stretch it for as long as you can with the hair, I understand it’s hard to keep up with but if you need it done that badly, do it yourself at home until you have the money to get it professionally done. When it comes to nails, I have acrylic and it can get expensive but I try to get the permanent french which can last a whole month. It takes a bit longer but it’s worth it to not have to go every two weeks. (I haven’t gone every two weeks in probably two years, it’s a waste of money.) Pedicures – it’s winter now so you can do them yourself.

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6. THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST THINGS I’VE DONE – Not buying a new car just because I was sick of mine. I have a 2006 Hyundai Elantra, it’s not the ideal looking car but I’m almost done paying it off so it was stupid of me to want a brand new car just to have another payment. Only get a new car if you have no other choice, it doesn’t matter what others think. What matters is you not breaking the bank just to drive around in a luxurious car that you’re just going to get sick of again. Don’t get me wrong, I almost bought a new one because I was bored with mine until my mom talked me out of it. And now, I am so thankful I listened to her! I would much rather put my money aside for better things like traveling! If you NEED a new car, buy it at the right time when they have major sales going on. Ex: Labor Day weekend!

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7. Wait for the right time to splurge. I recently bought a lap top in October from Walmart for just $300. Electronics are cheaper in October, up to 40% off! If you’re looking to get something, wait it out if you can so you can get a cheaper price. Take advantage of Black Friday and Cyber Monday as well. (If you’re the type of person who can do Black Friday, I’ve done it twice and am surprised that I even could deal!) Some things aren’t worth getting on Black Friday but large items like TV’s, iPads/tablets and other electronics are a good idea.

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8. PINTEREST! I am obsessed with this site. They have so many DIY ideas that can save you a lot of money. Ideas from decorating a new home to DIY home cleaning products that cost a lot less than buying the name brand stuff.

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Good luck with your future changes and hope these money saving tricks can come in handy! 🙂

Changes

It’s so funny how you look back at your life and notice the small changes you have made without even realizing it.  I feel so much mature now than I ever have and I’m slowly starting to realize that my old ways are changing and I’m okay with it!  I feel like I’ve grown so much in the past year and a half because of things that have happened in my life… sometimes it’s hard if others around you are still stuck on a less mature level.  They won’t understand the things you wish to do and the things you get rid of in your life for the better.  For example, last March my youngest brother almost passed away on my front lawn in the middle of a stupid fight.  As I watched.  Well, I tried to help also but the part that almost killed him, I saw it all.  I won’t go into full detail tonight but one day I will.  The point is my perspective on things changed so much.  My views on violence and fighting, I rather see myself as past that point in my life.  Others that I’m around at times won’t understand my feelings if they have not gone through what I have gone through.  And that’s okay.  Don’t let this stop you because no matter what, people will never know what it is like to walk in your shoes or be inside your head for a day.  So, back to doing what you want to reach your happiness… do what is best for you and ignore negativity from others.  Expect the negativity though because as sad as it is, people get envious over others doing what they want to do because they haven’t made the step in their own life yet to pursue their dreams.  I have noticed this in some people and instead of getting angry with them like I would have years ago, questioning myself “How come they aren’t happy for me if I would be happy for them?!”  I simply remember that I’m doing what I want to do.  The thing is, their reactions doesn’t really have anything to do with you… it’s them.  It’s their own issues that get brought to the surface.  If you choose to not let others get in your way, you can reach your goals.

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