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Less is More?

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Do you ever feel like sometimes you would feel more fulfilled with less? I recently watched a documentary on Netflix called Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things and it opened my eyes to how a large percentage of our society feels the need to buy things, giving them a temporary sense of fulfillment, when in reality, they are trying to fill some sort of void in their lives.

We live in a day and age where people’s lives are constantly documented through social media, giving a certain perception to others. Most of these perceptions are not real – no one is going to document the struggles, because who wants to see those, right? So we post about anything from job promotions, engagements, weddings and babies to dinner dates with friends and good deeds we did that day (did you know you can do a good deed without posting on Facebook about it? Crazy, right?!)

While watching the documentary, one part struck me and has been stuck in my head ever since. A man who used to work on Wall Street had decided to try out Minimalism after he was offered a huge promotion. He already had his own office, and was probably making a pretty decent salary already, and the promotion offer opened his eyes. After he received the offer, he said he wept inside his office, realizing he was now even more trapped than before.

[Thought] – Can so much security make you feel stuck? Like you can never leave or that security will go away?

This Wall Street man had finally received what he had been waiting for all this time. Or so he thought. Not everyone is built for corporate, structured, 9-5 life. And that’s okay. But society has a way of making us feel like we’re doing something wrong if we don’t follow what everyone else is doing, in the exact same order they’re doing it. This part of the documentary was small, but it spoke to me so much. There is so much more throughout the film that will open your eyes.

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I’m beginning to think this is all just an illusion we create in our minds, because we think that’s how it’s supposed to be. Did you ever think you could maybe be happier with less? Less clothes, less designer handbags and shoes, less clutter, even less income. Money may make things a bit easier, but it won’t all of a sudden turn you into a happy person. We have hopes and dreams, and us humans love the chase.

But, what happens when we reach our goal? Have we instantly gained complete and utter happiness? Probably not. Our dreams sometimes come along with baggage. Baggage that leads to an overwhelming stress and a realization that maybe this is not really something we wanted the burden of carrying. But, because we’re told it is what we should aspire for, we chase, chase, chase… until we arrive at our destination only to come to become aware that it wasn’t for us in the first place.

After watching this documentary, it does not mean I’m all of a sudden going to sell all my things and get by with just a few items. But, it does make you realize that you can declutter other parts of your life that are far too overwhelming. Use it a a metaphor, declutter your mind and get rid of all that makes you unhappy. You do not need to follow what everyone else is doing and you do not need to purchase the most recent styles and trends to maintain or gain happiness. Letting go can be liberating. 

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You do not need to be engaged just because you and your partner have been dating for years, you do not need to have an extravagant wedding to please others and keep their mouth’s shut. You do not need to make a certain amount of money just so you can sit across from an acquaintance one day and brag about your job title. You do not need to have a piece of paper to show you can start a family and you do not need to take the opinion of others and turn it into your own.

There isn’t enough time for this, we grow older each second, and one day we will regret making our lives about everyone else. And as I type this, I’m telling myself along with you. I need to listen to these words as well, each and every day.

Check out the ‘Minimalism’ trailer below and watch the full documentary on Netflix.

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People Think Differently Than You

One of the things humans tend to do a lot are take things personally. I do this at times also, not realizing that I’m just hurting myself and causing myself to stress about unnecessary situations. People think differently than you do. We were all raised by different parents or guardians that taught us the way of life they believed was right. Not everyone believes in the same things, which causes disagreements. Your mind works differently than theirs, maybe what you take seriously, they could care less about. When we sit there and question why people aren’t understanding us or why people do things differently from us we are taking it too personally. It’s not up to us to make them think the same way, therefore the situation has nothing to do with you deep down. When you come to realize this, you will gain a sense of freedom because you will not take things personally any longer.

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Freedom

ImageWhen people think of freedom, they automatically think of being alone or doing what you please whenever you please. This could be the definition to some people, but it’s very much possible to feel free due to other circumstances. This goes for finally letting go of things that are “weighing you down” – a job that is going nowhere, a relationship, a friendship, feelings of guilt or even your own thoughts. Anything that will lift weight off your shoulders gives you freedom. You can still be around others, doing what they would like to do and feel free. Feeling free is all about YOU, what you feel, the things you do, how you think and how you deal with things. I recently posted something about my trip to California in January and how it opened my eyes to so many things and helped me start doing the things I want to do rather than doing what others felt was the right thing. This you could say, gave me a sense of freedom. Another example is last week when I put in my two week notice at my other job that I’ve been at for 5 years, because it was a dead end and not necessary to keep for my future. I already feel free from its responsibilities even though my last day hasn’t arrived yet. Another feeling of freedom is being with the right person for you. A lot of people don’t feel free when they’re “tied down” not realizing that maybe it’s because they aren’t with the right person. You may like them, care for them and all that good stuff but if you have a feeling of “stuck” rather than happiness, then maybe it’s time to let yourself seek freedom. This was another thing my Cali trip helped me realize, and now I’m with someone who makes me feel free without even trying. If it scares you, just think of the feeling you’ll have once whatever it is, isn’t weighing you down anymore.

Set Yourself Free

Set Yourself Free

Nobody gets anywhere by staying in the same place. Our biggest fear is the fear of the unknown and that is why people are afraid to make huge changes in their lives. For example, I have been at one of my jobs for over 5 years. They don’t pay me enough but I’m comfortable there. And that’s the problem. Once you get comfortable, it’s time for a change. Especially if they aren’t doing anything for you, it’s time to move on. People don’t realize that the mind just needs to get used to things, whether it’s a new job, new home, new relationship or new career choice. Think of all the new things you have done in your life, you got used to them right? This goes for everything, no matter what it is. At first, humans think it’s the end of the world until time goes by and they realize they’ve gotten used to it just like they have with everything else. It’s funny, our minds are extremely powerful if we use them the correct way. They’re also powerful when used the wrong way. Make sure you’re listening to the correct thoughts because those are the thoughts that will get you places! I’ve been starting to realize all of this the past few months, realizing that not every job and not every person are there to help you. You need to do it yourself. You’ll feel free once you do so.