Power stems from our thoughts,
be sure there’s nothing but positivity being planted.
A young boy slept each night with a sword hanging from his ceiling. His father set it up right above his bed, trying to teach him some sort of lesson. Years went by and it turned out, all the stress from the dangling sword gave the boy a heart attack.
Has anyone ever heard this before? I’m not quite sure if I have all the details correct but the point of the story stays the same. STRESS. It can kill you. There are a million things in this world that can cause us to have our last day on this Earth, don’t let stress be one of them.
Enjoy your Sunday 🙂
I was watching TV with my mom tonight when a commercial came on about a new TV show where a woman learns she has cancer. She talks about how her whole life is different now and she begins to do every crazy thing she’s always wanted to do. Then my mom turned and said to me, “Imagine you were told you could only live for another 6 months? Think of all the things you would do.” This statement really got me thinking… how come we need to be told we have a deadline for us to start living like we have one? Because the truth is, we all have a deadline. Some come faster than others and some are told theirs when others never get the warning.
Imagine how differently you would live if you knew when you were going to leave this Earth. But the real question is, why can’t we live that way anyway? Why can’t any of us just enjoy ourselves like we were dying??? We are dying, all of us are. We should really start living like it. Instead we waste our days away, slaving away at jobs we hate, letting people walk all over us, always putting off our hopes and dreams because of the reality that’s in front of us at that moment. I think we’ve got it all wrong… the ones out there living really get it. Are you one of them?
Looking for some pointers on how to live an awesome life? Take it from Charles Bukowski, an American author, poet, short story writer, and novelist who shared his unfiltered views and opinions with the world on everything from art to death. He was a renowned and prolific writer, often depicting the experiences of the downtrodden and depraved people of American urban life, and he provided plenty of great tips on how to spend your days. But don’t just take my word for it, soak up the wisdom with this valuable advice from some his most well-known quotes.
1. Don’t settle.
“I wanted the whole world or nothing.”
You shouldn’t settle for anything less than what you absolutely deserve or desire. Strive for the best and don’t accept anything except for what will make you entirely happy. There’s no point in giving up on your goals simply to settle for a sub-par result that will forever leave you wishing for more in regret.
2. Love yourself.
No one’s perfect, that’s for sure, but there’s also no point in beating yourself up about it. Stop criticizing every minute thing about yourself that you wish you could change and show yourself some love. That’s not to say to never work on self-improvement, but be your own biggest fan while you’re at it, no matter what.
3. Live life to its fullest.
“What is terrible is not death but the lives people live or don’t live up until their death.”
“Some people never go crazy, What truly horrible lives they must live.”
Want to go skydiving but have never done it? Take the leap. Dying to get that degree in art-history but don’t know how you’ll use it? It’s time to enroll. You only have one life so you might as well live it to its absolute fullest capacity – right now. Why wait until it’s too late?
4. Don’t fear pain, without it, you can’t experience happiness.
“You have to die a few times before you can really live.”
Pain, sadness, anger, frustration, anxiety – negative feelings like that can be miserable and even downright painful sometimes. But you can’t fully appreciate the good emotions that life has to offer without experiencing the hurtful ones. So when you think you’ve hit rock bottom, remember it can only go up from there, and the pain you’re experiencing in the moment will only make the happiness taste so much sweeter later on.
5. Be your own unique self and shamelessly express it in all you do.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself – Charles Bukowski certainly didn’t hesitate to. Always show your true colors and express your own fantastic personality. It’s better to live your life being your whole self than trying to pretend to be something you’re not, simply for the approval others. Who cares what they think anyways?
6. You’re stronger than you think.
Life is full of trials and hardships – you know it, you’ve likely experienced it many times. Yet, no matter what, you always make it through these difficulties in one piece. Always remember that you’re stronger than you may think, and you have it in you to get through the toughest of days.
7. Don’t fear death.
“There’s nothing to mourn about death any more than there is to mourn about the growing of a flower.”
Death is unavoidable, so why spend your life worrying about it? Instead of obsessing about when you’ll finally go, take advantage of the life you were given. It’s much more worthwhile to celebrate life instead of fearing death, and you’ll likely be much happier because of it.
8. Have confidence in yourself.
“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts.”
You are awesome, and all you have to do to let your true talents shine is believe that fact. Have complete confidence in yourself and you might be surprised with all you can achieve.
9. There are much worse things than loneliness.
“There are worse things than being alone but it often takes decades to realize this and most often when you do it’s too late and there’s nothing worse than too late.”
It’s easy to fear being alone, and the company of others can often act as some form of a safety blanket. But there are much worse things than loneliness, and there’s no point in getting caught up in being alone when that time can be spent on so many more fulfilling and joyful things. Learn to appreciate yourself without others, and value your time alone.
10. Life happens, don’t always take it so seriously.
“Sometimes you just have to pee in the sink.”
Unexpected, even crazy things are bound to happen in life, and sometimes you just have to go with it. Don’t get caught up in perfection and make sure to lighten up sometimes. There’s no point in taking everything seriously, and sometimes you just need to have some fun.
A place I’d love to visit in my future: Ireland
I would love to be walking down this path right now! Stop on the side of the road for a picnic… perfection.
Dark Hedges, Ireland
“Stairway to Heaven”
Kinsale (Country Cork) Ireland. Known as the “gourmet capital” of Ireland.
Tree Tunnel in Northern Ireland… SO COOL!
Kilkenny City, Ireland. I can hear the hundreds of feet stepping on the stone. Absolutely beautiful.
Happy Monday. Notice how there’s no explanation point at the end of that 😉 so I was just wondering if others felt the same way as me about this: when it comes to working, your settings make a huge difference, right? For example, wouldn’t you rather sit by a window being able to look outside throughout your day rather than sitting in a corner facing a wall? I truly believe that people can work better if they enjoy what is around them… being in a bland colored office all day with no windows can literally drive one insane. Is it just me? Since my mind is just extremely restless and it’s hard for me to sit still either way, I wasn’t sure if this was something that mattered to others as well! Now I need to go get ready to head to the bland, window-less office. Share your thoughts please and thank you 🙂
Very few writers begin with immediate success, and if there’s anything to be gained from King’s book, it’s that you start with rejection. King began submitting stories to magazines as early as middle school, and whenever he received a rejection, he would pin the letter on a wall. By the time he was 14, he had accumulated so many letters that the pin could hardly support their weight. Yet none of these rejections daunted him. In fact, King says he learned some of his best lessons from the notes scrawled on the slips. One note that told him to cut down on wordiness changed the way he wrote “once and forever.”
King argues that if you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all else: read a lot and write a lot: “If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have the time (or the tools) to write.” Every book has a lesson to teach. The bad books tell us what not to do, while the good books teach us about style, narration, plot development, and the elements that create a compelling story. More importantly, reading helps lead us into writing. It creates an “ease and intimacy” with writing, allowing us to dip into our creative processes without being self-conscious.
To be a good writer, you must master the fundamentals of vocabulary, grammar, and style. Use only the vocabulary that you feel most comfortable with. Know your grammar. Avoid adverbs and passive voice like the plague. Understanding these fundamental skills will enable you to build powerful stories unfettered by poor language and misplaced pronouns. As he reminds us, mastery of these basic skills can eventually lead to the magic of a full-fledged novel: “At its most basic we are only discussing a learned skill, but do we not agree that sometimes the most basic skills can create things far beyond your expectations? We are talking about tools and carpentry, about words and style … but as we move along, you’d do well to remember that we are also talking about magic.”
King wrote non-stop. Whether he was washing maggot-infested motel sheets or teaching English with only a few hours to spare, he found the time to pen his one-reel horror movies. Though King describes the best writing work as akin to “inspired play,” he also admits that writing isn’t always easy. However, persistence is key: “… stopping a piece of work just because it’s hard, either emotionally or imaginatively, is a bad idea. Sometimes you have to go on when you don’t feel like it, and sometimes you’re doing good work when it feels like all you’re managing is to shovel shit from a sitting position.” Writing requires commitment, and “… if you don’t want to work your ass off, you have no business trying to write well.”
One of King’s first pieces of advice is that there is no treasure trove of ideas waiting to be found. Good story ideas come from anywhere, and it’s the writer’s job to recognize them. Most of King’s ideas came from overhearing snippets of conversation and building scenarios around them. He found his inspiration for Carrie during a brief stint as a janitor at a high school. While scrubbing the rust-stains off the walls of a girls’ shower, he imagined the book’s memorable first scene: Carrie discovering her period as girls threw tampons at her in the shower. There’s no need to wait for a muse when all you need is to keep your eyes and ears open.
King repeatedly returns to the necessity for writers to be honest with themselves and their interests: “Write what you like, then imbue it with life and make it unique by blending in your own personal knowledge of life, friendship, relationships, sex, and work,” he writes. In a variation of the “write what you know” rule, King encourages writers to write what they feel to be true. Using what you know and what is unique to you will bring an honesty and truth to your characters, dialogue, and scenarios.
Of the many stories embedded in King’s book, perhaps one of the most heartwarming and inspiring ones is that of his relationship with his wife, Tabitha. King describes Tabitha as the person he turns to for support and advice. He considers her his ideal reader. When he decided to throw out his first few pages of Carrie, Tabitha fished out the pages the next morning and encouraged him to keep going, which he did. Carrie would go on to become King’s first major success. Support goes a long way, and King states it best: “Writing is a lonely job. Having someone who believes in you makes a lot of difference. They don’t have to make speeches. Just believing is usually enough.”