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Self Love

Self Love

Loving yourself is so important. Letting go of things that are unhealthy for you is a GOOD thing. It may be hard at first, not matter what it is, but in the end you will thank yourself! Letting go of certain things means you are growing as a person and should only be seen as a positive thing. Once you start to doubt yourself, there is way too much room for other poisons in your brain. You will continue on a self-hating rant. Wouldn’t you rather a self-loving rant instead?

What I Would Like to Accomplish by the Time I Turn 25

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Turning 25 seems like a big deal for me. It’s not like turning 22 or 23… you still feel young at those ages. For me, just turning 24 scared me knowing it was one year closer to 25. Since I was little I have always looked at 25 year-olds as people who were so grown up and had everything they wanted. Now that I’m reaching this age that is half way to 30 (eek) I am realizing I was very wrong thinking this! I thought by now I would have my college degree and have a good job and maybe even be engaged to someone. (This was my thinking when I was like, 15/16 years old) Boy, was I wrong again. I never knew that I would end up not having my degree due to finances, be at an OK job and not be engaged. I’m ok with the engagement thing because now that I’ve reached 24 I feel I am too young for that anyway. I’m in a relationship and I hope it comes to that one day, until then, I wait. I also remember thinking I would have such a nice car and go out drinking to places in NYC all the time. Ha! All that requires a good amount of money. I’m in the middle of saving what I can, but the last thing on my mind is having a nice, lavish car to drive around in. The point is… things don’t really ever end up the way you think. I’m in shock that my 25th birthday is this year. It makes me kind of nervous knowing I haven’t achieved certain things yet, but I always try to remind myself that not everyone knows their path right away. It also makes me want to do everything that I’ve ever dreamed of doing because life goes by so fast and I want to make the most of it while I’m still in my 20’s.

What I Would Like to Accomplish by the Time I Turn 25 (which is in 8 months)

  • Write a short story
  • Have a specific amount of money saved up
  • Have another trip planned
  • Have my credit cards paid off
  • Reach at least 300 followers on my blog
  • A healthy, fit body inside & out
  • Participate in another writing contest
  • More positive thinking

I will continue to add on to this last in the next few months and in September I will look back and see what I have accomplished!

It’s okay to not know, give it all go – Guest Blogger – Sophia Valentine

‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’

It’s the question we are all asked. Some people know what they want to be. They have a passion for a particular job, and this never changes as they get older. Fireman, policeman, vet, teacher, florist. The majority of them go on to work in these professions, and are extremely happy in their jobs.

BUT…..

What if you don’t know what you want to be? What if you study for years for a particular job, only to find out that it’s not quite what you wanted after all? Is all hope lost. No, it most definitely isn’t!

We all have to test the water at some point, so treat each bad job as ‘experience.’ We won’t know what we like and what job we suit in, if we don’t try several out first. Never give up. If you’re happy in your job, great. If you’re not, change it! It’s never too late. Career changes happen at all ages, whether it’s leaving a firm for a slightly better one, higher pay, nicer colleagues/boss, or whether it’s a new job entirely, a completely different path, take the risk. You don’t want to be slumped over your desk in 10 years time wishing you’d made the plunge and risked it. There’s no time like the present.

If it’s proving difficult to get a new job in the field that you desire, (experience, qualifications, blah blah), then perhaps try going for Intern jobs/work experience. Get your foot on the ladder, even if it’s unpaid work at first. You have to start somewhere! There’s nothing wrong with starting off small, with a job you cannot stand for a few weeks/months to get those qualifications on your CV!

Before fame, take these celebrities below for example:-

Harry Styles used to work in a bakery before his 1D days, Beyonce swept hair from her mother’s salon, Lady Gaga was a waitress, Carrie Underwood was a cashier at a petrol station, Madonna was a dunkin doughnuts cashier, Rachel McAdams worked at McDonald’s, Megan Fox worked in a smoothie shop dressed as a banana, Johnny Depp made ends meet by selling ballpoint pens!

In my own experience, I left school with my GCSE’s, studied Law at college for five years, then worked in a Solicitors Firm for another five years. Two as a Legal Secretary, and three as a trainee Legal Executive, handling clients cases, preparing and submitting court papers for deadlines, attending court, interviewing possible fraudulent clients etc. However, after a while,  a lot of people who worked at my firm felt unappreciated, weren’t happy with pay not reflecting their hard working skills, and felt that there was no room for further development. After a while, I, myself, decided to quit.

When I was younger, I had always dreamed of becoming a teacher or a writer. So, not only did I quit my job, but I left the country too. I had always fancied taking a gap year out, or to try working abroad for a while, get a taste of different culture, a substitute lifestyle if you will. In May 2012 I moved to the beautiful Balearic’s, Ibiza! Guess what? I’m still here now!

Yes, it’s scary. I worried for months whether I had given up on a good career, whether I wasted 5 years studying for nothing and if I’d made the right choice. At the moment, I cannot speak fluent Spanish, yet! I have no job, a boyfriend, but not a big amount of friends like I was used to in England, but so what? I’m back writing, the thing that has always been my number one passion, I’m learning another language, and I’m seeking work.

There’s a quote which I will leave you with, in respect of your life, career, relationships, etc….

‘It’s better to regret the things you do, than the things you didn’t do!’

Take a look at Sophia’s blog here

It’s Never too Late

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At the young age of 24, I am still trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I know I want a career in writing, whether it be for a magazine, newspaper, website, etc. Writing is sort of like the music industry in a way, you have to get your foot in the right door to move up the ladder. You have to be unique and different than other writers out there. It’s not easy but if you want it bad enough you just have to keep at it until the right opportunity knocks on your door. It’s funny because when I was 18 and went to college, I originally was going to become a teacher. I was always good at writing and was told by my teachers that I was talented but it wasn’t until my third year of college that my Journalism professor took me aside one day when he saw me in the hall way (after only having one class with him so far) and told me he gave me a 10 out of 10 on my article (which he said he never does!) He told me I was extremely talented and spent the rest of the semester telling me how I could be published one day. I then took a summer course with him for Magazine Writing which I not only did well in, but I also enjoyed it.

I feel that it’s unfair for kids just getting out of high school to expect to know what they want to do for the rest of their life. I know people in their 40’s who still aren’t sure. I guess it’s all part of the money trap though, which I ended up caught in with a lot of other Americans. You pay all kinds of money to get a degree then when you graduate, you have trouble finding a job. Most American’s now-a-days work, work, work and they end up nowhere. But I encourage those 40-something year olds and others to do what they want to do, no matter what age you are. It’s never too late to go back to school if you have to or take courses in something that will help you with getting a good job. I’m still convinced that we all (no matter what age) are still trying to figure our lives out and what we want to do to make ourselves happy. Happiness is the one thing we’re all searching for, we don’t have that much time here on Earth so I suggest you don’t give up until you find it.